It Always Starts Sweet: The Fake Love Story Setup
Romance scams begin with kindness. A friendly message on Facebook, Instagram, or a dating app. They’re charming, polite, and seem deeply interested in you. They’ll say things like “I feel like I’ve known you forever” or “I can’t believe how lucky I am to find someone like you.” It feels personal. Real.
And that’s exactly what scammers want. They make you feel seen and heard — building a connection that seems emotionally safe. You’ll spend hours chatting. Soon, you might feel like you’re falling for them.
The Emotional Manipulation Begins Slowly
Once trust is built, they’ll start to share stories — always dramatic. They’re stuck abroad. Their bank account is frozen. Their mother is sick. They desperately need help, and they’re too embarrassed to ask anyone but you.
You might be thinking, “But I haven’t even met them!” And yet, their words feel sincere. You send a small amount, just to help. Then another. And another.
Scammers are master manipulators. They’ll promise to visit you, send you gifts, or even propose. But everything stays virtual. There are always excuses: missed flights, fake emergencies, or visa issues.
Real Story: David’s 6-Month Romance That Cost Him $5,200
David, a 34-year-old teacher from the UK, met “Angela” on Facebook. She claimed to be a nurse working in Syria for a humanitarian cause. Over time, their daily chats became romantic. Angela sent him photos, shared her “routine,” and even introduced him to her “mother” through messages.
When she claimed her phone was stolen and she needed help replacing it, David wired her $400. Then came more requests — medicine, transport, visa documents. In total, he sent over $5,200.
Angela disappeared overnight. Her number was unreachable. All her photos were traced back to a stolen Instagram account.
How to Spot and Avoid Romance Scams
🔸 They rush the relationship and talk about love too soon
🔸 They avoid video calls or real-life meetings
🔸 They always have an emotional story that ends in asking for money
🔸 Their profiles often use model-like pictures or have very few real-life posts
If someone truly cares about you, they won’t manipulate your emotions for cash. Take time to verify who they are. Reverse-search profile images and always talk to friends or family before sending money to someone you’ve never met in person.
If you or someone you know has experienced a romance scam, don’t be ashamed. These scams are designed to deceive good, trusting people. Speak out and help others stay safe from this heartbreaking digital crime.
